Sometimes in EMDR therapy we will know immediately what memories need to be reprocessed; and other times it will take a little more time...

“The following excerpts are taken from Getting Past Your Past by Francine Shapiro: “The truth is we all suffer at one time or another....

What’s a Schema? "Each of us tends to think we see things as they are, that we are objective. But this is not the case. We see the world,...

Some find it helpful to look at Perfectionism as an “addiction”. Here are a couple points to ponder: An Addictive Reward System Just as a...

Simply stated, dissociation is our brain's way of coping—helping us take a “break”—from stressful or traumatic things. Although...

“The universe is made of stories, not atoms.” (Muriel Rukeyser) I am a lover of stories. Stories have come to me in a variety of ways...

Many times people have the question: “Have I been traumatized?”  Although a diagnosis of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or Acute...

I’ve always liked those scenes in movies where someone gets to talk to themselves. I like this type of thought experiment. If I could go...

EMDR is an 8 phase treatment protocol. These phases are outlined below so at any point in your therapy you can identify where we are and...

Shame is one of the most powerful feelings we can experience. When we are “in shame” those feelings can totally overwhelm our system and...

Unwanted, intrusive thoughts can come in many shapes and sizes and for a variety of reasons. Some people find their fears and worries...

There is a truth that is hard to swallow for some of us. This is that some problems are not ours to solve. Now, I’m not here to tell you...

Buddhists have a way of dealing with distress that is fascinating. It is the principle of non-attachment . The principle of...

(Note: Although this post is written for marriage partners, the principles are just as applicable to friends, co-workers, neighbors,...

If our emotions can be compared to the weather—a natural part of life that comes and goes with a lot of variety—then it might help to...

Emotions Are a Part of Life We all experience negative emotions. There is no way to avoid this. We cannot, like an android in a sci-fi...

In the 4th century B.C. a philosopher by the name of Epictetus stated: “Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take...

In the Marvel movie Dr. Strange a brilliant surgeon gets pulled into the world of the mystic arts after a devastating accident. While...

Dan Wile wrote “choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems.” When working though marital problems it sometimes helps us keep...

In her book Loving What Is Byron Katie observes that part of doing our own work is realizing the connection between our thoughts and our...