Someone once said that when we have a problem we have 4 choices in how we approach it: We can fix it. We can reframe it. We can accept...

Feeling down, depressed, or anxious? Take a moment to ponder if any of these statements apply to you: • I’m constantly overwhelmed by my...

Mindful breathing is a different animal than calming breathing. Instead of controlling one’s breath to refocus or calm down, the purpose...

Sometimes we suck at breathing. And this is bad. Way bad. Bad because our breathing is neurologically connected to our sense of...

At some points in therapy we may find it helpful to build and install a mental and emotional resource . This helps us: • Develop and...

“Why Meditate?” Why do I encourage my clients to practice mindfulness regularly? Because every time we practice mindfulness we are...

When selecting a memory or experience for reprocessing we are often looking for the “first or worst.” That is, what experience represents...

As you might have surmised already EMDR is different than traditional talk therapy. Here is a quick take on some significant differences:...

Why is it important to identify our shame Gremlins? Well, for one thing it is easier to fight a Gremlin out in the open rather than one...

Why are Shame Gremlins so destructive? I mean, isn’t being ashamed an important part of changing? Well, no. The research doesn’t support...

Many of us are unconsciously activated by our shame. What happens to us in the present and how we react is often affected by deep-set...

Using a container visualization provides a way to set aside material until it can be reprocessed. When something distressing happens (an...

Phase 2 is about making sure that clients have the tools and ability to emotionally regulate themselves during and between sessions of...

When we begin processing your experience or memory I will use the phrase “What are you noticing now?” to do a simple check on what you...

Once you understand the primary assumption of EMDR therapy*—that the way we react to things in the present is affected by our...

Using a TICES log can be particularly helpful in EMDR therapy. A TICES log can help us: (1) Step back from a situation, allowing us to...

One of the primary tools EMDR therapists use to facilitate reprocessing of maladaptively stored memories is bilateral stimulation (BLS)....

Origins of EMDR In 1987 a psychologist named Francine Shapiro was taking a walk when she discovered that disturbing thoughts disappeared...

“Ok. I am pretty tired from what I’m doing to myself (as are my friends and loved ones). So, what do I do?” In their book Reinventing...

But if I give up my perfectionism won’t I stop trying? Won’t I stop achieving? Won’t I just sit on the couch and binge watch Netflix? And...