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Radical Acceptance
Someone once said that when we have a problem we have 4 choices in how we approach it: We can fix it. We can reframe it. We can accept...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 12, 20194 min read
Cultivating Self-Compassion
Feeling down, depressed, or anxious? Take a moment to ponder if any of these statements apply to you: • I’m constantly overwhelmed by my...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 8, 20191 min read
Mindful Breathing
Mindful breathing is a different animal than calming breathing. Instead of controlling one’s breath to refocus or calm down, the purpose...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 8, 20192 min read
Self-soothing: Breathing
Sometimes we suck at breathing. And this is bad. Way bad. Bad because our breathing is neurologically connected to our sense of...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 8, 20194 min read
Building and Enhancing Resources
At some points in therapy we may find it helpful to build and install a mental and emotional resource . This helps us: • Develop and...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 7, 20193 min read
Mindfulness - Getting Started!
“Why Meditate?” Why do I encourage my clients to practice mindfulness regularly? Because every time we practice mindfulness we are...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 4, 20192 min read
Identifying Touchstone Memories
When selecting a memory or experience for reprocessing we are often looking for the “first or worst.” That is, what experience represents...
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nelsonmiked
Jan 2, 20194 min read
What’s Different About EMDR?
As you might have surmised already EMDR is different than traditional talk therapy. Here is a quick take on some significant differences:...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 31, 20182 min read
Shame Gremlins 3
Why is it important to identify our shame Gremlins? Well, for one thing it is easier to fight a Gremlin out in the open rather than one...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 31, 20183 min read
Shame Gremlins 2
Why are Shame Gremlins so destructive? I mean, isn’t being ashamed an important part of changing? Well, no. The research doesn’t support...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 31, 20183 min read
Shame Gremlins
Many of us are unconsciously activated by our shame. What happens to us in the present and how we react is often affected by deep-set...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 31, 20184 min read
Using a Container - A Place for Memories, Experiences, and Emotions
Using a container visualization provides a way to set aside material until it can be reprocessed. When something distressing happens (an...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 27, 20182 min read
EMDR Phase 2 - Preparing for EMDR Processing
Phase 2 is about making sure that clients have the tools and ability to emotionally regulate themselves during and between sessions of...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 27, 20182 min read
EMDR Prep: “What are you noticing now?”
When we begin processing your experience or memory I will use the phrase “What are you noticing now?” to do a simple check on what you...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 17, 20182 min read
Taking EMDR to the Movies
Once you understand the primary assumption of EMDR therapy*—that the way we react to things in the present is affected by our...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 17, 20182 min read
Using a TICES Log
Using a TICES log can be particularly helpful in EMDR therapy. A TICES log can help us: (1) Step back from a situation, allowing us to...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 16, 20182 min read
Bilateral Stimulation — A Tool of the EMDR Therapist
One of the primary tools EMDR therapists use to facilitate reprocessing of maladaptively stored memories is bilateral stimulation (BLS)....
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nelsonmiked
Dec 16, 20183 min read
“The Past is Present” — An Introduction to EMDR
Origins of EMDR In 1987 a psychologist named Francine Shapiro was taking a walk when she discovered that disturbing thoughts disappeared...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 13, 20183 min read
Refusing to Hustle — Overcoming Perfectionism
“Ok. I am pretty tired from what I’m doing to myself (as are my friends and loved ones). So, what do I do?” In their book Reinventing...
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nelsonmiked
Dec 13, 20182 min read
Letting Go of Perfectionism in Exchange for Healthy Striving
But if I give up my perfectionism won’t I stop trying? Won’t I stop achieving? Won’t I just sit on the couch and binge watch Netflix? And...
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